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Opening Song: Put Your Shoulder to the Wheel #252
Scripture: D&C 42:42
Lesson: Read the Little Red Hen readers theater (found online)
Discussion: What is the moral of the story?
• We all need to share in the work
• Lift the burden of others in our home by helping out
• When we share in the work, we share the reward
Questions to ask:
• How did the Little Red Hen feel when no one would help her?
• How did the others feel when they didn’t get to share the reward?
• Do you think that the Little Red Hen enjoyed eating the bread on her own?
• In what ways would it have benefitted the hen if her friends had helped her?
• How can we relate this story to our family?”
The Family Proclamation teaches us that “Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities.
• What principle in that statement relates to the story we just read?
• Why is it important that we work together? How does that help our family to be successful?
• What responsibilities does each family member have to maintain our home?
• What are some ways that we can all share in the work?
• What rewards will come to us as we all work together?
Conclusion: When we share in the work, we share the reward. Our ultimate reward is to return to our Heavenly Father and have an eternal family. We don’t want just one member of our family to enjoy this reward, we want to all be there together to share the reward with each other. The reward wouldn’t be so sweet if we didn’t have each other to enjoy it with.
“Let us realize that the privilege to work is a gift, that power to work is a blessing, that love of work is success” President David O. McKay. (Pathways to Happiness , 381)
Watch this video clip to emphasize the importance of our attitudes regarding work
Closing song: When We’re Helping We’re Happy, Children’s Songbook #198
Refreshment: Homemade bread (Everyone helps to make)
Song: I Love to See the Temple
Scripture: D&C 88:40
Thought: “Fill your life with service, education, personality development, love for all, and other such meaningful traits. Live with purpose each day.” –Marvin J Ashton
Lesson: Temple MormonAd,
Cut up the quotes and put them in envelopes titled Who, What, When, Where, Why and How. Have each person pick an envelope and read the quotes to the family.
What is a date and what is the purpose of dating?
- A date is a planned activity that allows a young man and a young woman to get to know each other better.
- A “date” must pass the test of three P’s: (1) planned ahead, (2) paid for, and (3) paired off.—Dallin H. Oaks (Dating versus Hanging Out)
Why date instead of just hanging out?
The old-fashioned date was a wonderful way to get acquainted with a member of the opposite sex. It encouraged conversation. It allowed you to see how you treat others and how you are treated in a one-on-one situation. It gave opportunities to learn how to initiate and sustain a mature relationship. None of that happens in hanging out. –Dallin H Oaks (Dating Versus Hanging Out)
- Dating Pre-mission
- When you begin dating, go with one or more additional couples. Avoid going on frequent dates with the same person. (For Strength of the Youth)
- “It is better, my friends, to date a variety of companions until you are ready to marry. Have a wonderful time, but stay away from familiarity. Keep your hands to yourself. It may not be easy, but it is possible.”
(President Gordon B. Hinckley 1910–2008, “A Prophet’s Counsel and Prayer for Youth,” New Era, Jan. 2001, 13.)
- Dating post mission
- Men, if you have returned from your mission and you are still following the boy-girl patterns you were counseled to follow when you were 15, it is time for you to grow up. Gather your courage and look for someone to pair off with. Start with a variety of dates with a variety of young women, and when that phase yields a good prospect, proceed to courtship. It’s marriage time. That is what the Lord intends for His young adult sons and daughters. Men have the initiative, and you men should get on with it. –Dallin H Oaks (Dating Versus Hanging out)
- As you enter your adult years, make dating and marriage a high priority. Seek a companion who is worthy to go to the temple to be sealed to you for time and all eternity. Marrying in the temple and creating an eternal family are essential in God’s plan of happiness. (For Strength of Youth)
When should we date? You should not date until you are at least 16 years old. (For Strength of the Youth)
Whom? Choose to date only those who have high moral standards and in whose company you can maintain your standards. Remember that a young man and a young woman on a date are responsible to protect each other’s honor and virtue. (For Strength of Youth)
- Spiritual Assessment “As you go through your dating and courting relationships, I would hope that you will assess the spiritual inclinations of the individuals you’re getting to know better. How is their testimony? How do they treat their parents? How do they treat their brothers and sisters? Do they respect authority? Do they love the Lord, His servants, and the scriptures? What plans do they have for their lives? “It isn’t enough if they are handsome or beautiful, if they are rich or poor, what kind of car they drive, what kind of clothes they wear, what kind of athletic ability they have, or what kind of intellect they are. You should be seeking to understand the gifts they have that will be eternal in nature.”
Elder Robert D. Hales of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, “Gifts of the Spirit,” Ensign, Feb. 2002, 19.
Where? Go only to places where you can maintain your standards and remain close to the Spirit. (For Strength of Youth)
How to become datable?
Become the person that you want to date. (See this article )
Conclusion: Gordon B Hinckley stated “”This will be the most important decision of your life, the individual whom you marry. . . . Marry the right person in the right place at the right time”
Dating prepares us for marriage. It provides an opportunity for us to get to know people that we could potentially marry. We must always remember to date with a purpose and keep the Temple in our sight. The goal is to take the right person to right place at the right time.
watch this video
FHE: Self-reliance and work
Opening song: I Want to Live the Gospel (Children’s Songbook of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 148)
Scripture: D&C 60:13
Quote: President Marion G. Romney (1897–1988) taught: “Without self-reliance one cannot exercise these innate desires to serve. How can we give if there is nothing there? Food for the hungry cannot come from empty shelves. Money to assist the needy cannot come from an empty purse. Support and understanding cannot come from the emotionally starved. Teaching cannot come from the unlearned. And most important of all, spiritual guidance cannot come from the spiritually weak.” 2
Lesson: What does it mean to be self-reliant?
- “When you are self-reliant, you use the blessings and abilities God has given you to care for yourself and your family and to find solutions for your own problems. Self-reliance does not mean that you must be able to do all things on your own. To be truly self-reliant, you must learn how to work with others and turn to the Lord for His help and strength” (For the Strength of Youth, 41).
What are some ways that we are trying to be self-reliant?
- Food storage (prepare for the unexpected)
- Save money, be frugal, Pay off debts.
- Don’t be wasteful
- Pay tithing
- Be grateful (When we develop an attitude of gratitude, we remember that we are not entitled to anything. We must be grateful for the things that we have.)
- Planting a garden (this teaches us how to grow our own food so that we aren’t as dependent on others to provide food for us.)
- Work (clean our homes, care for and provide for our families)
- Education (learning all that we can so that we can take care of ourselves and others. Education opens doors for us and provides opportunities to work and obtain the necessities of life.)
- Scripture study (This helps us to gain our own testimony so that we don’t have to rely on anyone else. We can gain a testimony and build ourselves upon the foundation of Christ. We won’t be able to withstand the temptations of the adversary if we are not spiritually self-reliant)
- Exercise and eat right. Part of being self-reliant is having good health and strength so that we are able to work and care for ourselves and our family.
Read quotes from For Strength of Youth: Self Reliance and Work
“Work is honorable. Developing the capacity to work will help you contribute to the world in which you live. It will bring you an increased sense of self-worth. It will bless you and your family, both now and in the future.”
What blessings come from work?
- Help us contribute to the world
- Sense of self worth
- Bless you and your family
“Learning to work begins in the home.”
What are some ways that we can learn to be self-reliant and work in our homes?
- Working alongside our parents
- Learning new skills
- Serving our family members
- Keeping busy. Don’t be idle and waste away our time.
- Save money
Why do people often times view work as a negative thing?
Is this the right way to view work? Why or why not?
The owners of a Rocky Mountain resort lodge kept an eagle in a large cage for their guests’ entertainment. The eagle was well cared for and grew into a healthy, noble bird. But one day a group of visitors expressed resentment that so wild and beautiful a creature should be confined. The lodge keeper opened the door of the cage, but the bird would not leave. Eventually the eagle left, but he died soon after that. He had long since forgotten how to hunt for his own food, and with no one to feed him, he could not survive. (Family Home Evening Resource Book Self-reliance)
What do we learn about self-reliance from this story?
Watch this video clip:
The Way My Family Worked –Deiter F. Uchtdorf
Conclusion: Read this quote by D. Todd Christopherson
“All honest work is the work of God.”
Encourage each family member to set a goal to become more self-reliant in whatever way they choose. This may include learning a new skill such as doing their own laundry, or learning to cook a meal for the family. Report the following week on what they learned.
Closing Song: “Dare to Do Right,” Children’s Songbook of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 158